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Orphans of the Storm

In history, psychology, society on June 22, 2009 by leafless Tagged: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , ,

Memories are indisputably our most precious possessions. A person without memories is like a kite without a flying line. But memories are double-edged swords. They can bring meanings and joys to one’s life, but they can also bring sadness and despairs. In the aftermath of the 2004 Tsunami, there were images of children gathering at a Red Cross facility–hoping for any news of their parents–only to later learn that their loved ones had perished in raging waters. I was so touched by the story that I decided to keep a tap out for any follow-up stories.

A few months later, I found a news report that mentioned how there was an unexpected spike in the number of missing “tsunami” orphans. Apparently, many “tsunami” kids had decided to run away from the orphanages where they had been staying. The news, as depressed as it was, did not take me by surprise. There were obvious reasons for this.

Most of the kids, living in orphanages, are children who were abandoned by their parents at an early age; many do not have any memories of their parents. Consequently, these “orphans” treat the orphanages where they are being raised as homes and other kids at the facilities as part of their family.

On the other hand, orphans whose parents died in accidents and other unexpected events have spent most of their lives in the loving and care of their parents. They are likely to have a hard time making the transition. Every time they hear laughter, they will be reminded of all the good times they shared with their parents. Every time they hear someone crying, they will be reminded of their many tantrums and how their parents pacified them with hugs and kisses. Every time they lie on bed, they will be reminded of the many bedtime stories their parents had told them. Memories can indeed be dreadfully painful.

From time to time, some guests would visit the orphanage. These guests would hear about the orphans’ stories and cast a sympathetic eye upon them. Unknown to the guests is the fact that these orphans absolutely despise their petty pity. They just want to be treated like everyone else. All they want to do is to run away from the painful memories, start a new life, and be free. In due course, some of them would do just that.

By day, these kids would wander the streets begging for money. By night, they would become “night phantoms” preying on bystanders’ wallets. On occasion, they would lurk outside the local ice-cream store stalking a family of three sharing a big glass of ice cream sundae together. For a brief moment, they would see visions of the good times they shared with their deceased parents. But the experience is brief, lasting only seconds; they are soon on their way.

At the end of the day, they would seek refuge under a bridge somewhere. There aren’t any beds or pillows for them to lie on. But it is just what they have always wanted. All the activities, during the day, have made their legs sore and their backs ache. Within minutes, they are soundly asleep. May be in their dreams, these poor orphans will finally escape the memories that have been haunting them. Sweet dreams…..little ones.

[Simon N.]

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11 Responses to “Orphans of the Storm”

  1. Sad. It is hard for me to think of the incredible tragedies that befall so many people in this world. The world is so full of pain.

  2. This is a really sobering post and highlights a lot of things people don’t think about. I was especially touched by the mention of “petty pity.” In some small way, I’m acquainted with it, but only in much, much shallower terms. I’m sure I’ve been guilty of it, too.

  3. Thanks for the story. It sure reminded me of my own.

    For a couple of years, I was a volunteer at a children’s home, some ten years ago. I purposely set out to fill in the void that was left on them by their parents. It was a fulfilling experience. Though, I’d like to think that I made a bigger difference in their lives than in mine, as I imagine them today living as teenagers, some place somewhere.
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    Admin – Actually, I should have been the one thanking. I’m sure you had made quite a difference in somebody’s life.

  4. Very sad story, but great to know. You write so well, thanks for opening my eyes! I wish others could have blessed lives, especially those that struggle so much.

  5. For all the gifts that I have been given, I am thankful. Stories such as these fill me with the desire to use those gifts to help those in the world who so desperatly need a helping hand…both here at home and the far reaches of the world. Thank you for the post and for the encouragment. Amie

  6. If they’ve never been exposed to filial goodness, why do they seek it? Is the notion of “family” innate?

    (I’d say yes)

    On another note…
    are you Simon N.?
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    Admin – The “tsunami” kids yearn for family, but not just any family. And yes, I’m Simon N.

  7. So sad to think that not only did these kids suffer from a horrible tragedy, but there’s no social or government program or plan to help them. It almost seems like they’re doomed to, at best, subsistence living and/or begging for a living in their later years…

  8. Hi leafless,
    It is an interesting take that you have on children/poverty/care/and the places that care for children. I am a foster parent… but before you think I am one of those pocket liners that people seem to endlessly discuss on American TV… I will let you know that I cave up a 75K a year job in the university system and do not take a profit from the kids – instead we use the money (here in Ontario Canada it is 29.77/day) to do stuff with the kids. They are the most spoiled children in our area, truth be known. I am a stay at home mom – until tomorrow when my kids of a year and a half go home to mommy. Don’t worry – all our kids have gone home b/c we work with families and our kids – all 11 of them come back for very frequent visits.
    The thing is that now that I have some experience with child welfare – though not in the developing world – the missing kids – it may not be what you think… Actually… I think I am beginning a diatribe so I better stop… since what I really wanted to say is thanks for the post – it is an important topic.

  9. So true with the memories and what is hidden within each one of them. This brings to mind that we should not judge anyone if we haven’t walk in their shoes. These I think are one of the many tragedies both cause by natural disaster and by unfeeling human beings. Thank you for this writeup. It surely will open some eyes and hearts.

    All the best leafless and keep up these incredible blogs.

    sugali:)

  10. My home town was one of the place that got hit by tsunami ……… some entire villages have been washed away along with the people …

    If you are tracking Tsunami news .. check this too ..

    http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/Cities/Missing-tsunami-girl-seen-in-Kolar/articleshow/4681629.cms

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